You can’t stop the waves but you can learn to surf.– Jon Kabat-Zinn, American professor emeritus
Emotional intelligence is a foundation for a balanced life. It has four components:
- relationship skills
We cannot control our emotions. But we can choose, how we react to them.
Self-awareness and management skills can be trained like a muscle. We can improve our awareness and understanding of our initial emotional responses, feelings and thoughts.
Thoughts can nourish or hurt us.
Positive thoughts chase away negative feelings.
Every day and every moment, we have a choice. We can choose to think negative, but we can also have a positive attitude. Circumstances that appear negative to us at first can be reframed, if we imagine positive outcomes. When we experience negativity inside or around us, we can do positive actions.
Taking ourselves out of a negative attitude is a possibility.
Mindful coffee moments can help us to slow down and to return to a more peaceful and present state of mind. While enjoying coffee we can reflect on the beauty of the ritual and how we feel about it through all of our senses.
The Legend of the Two Wolves
There is a Cherokee legend about an elderly brave who tells his grandson about life.
“Son,” he says, “Within all of us there is a battle of two wolves. One is evil. He is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.”
He continued, “The other wolf is good. He is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith.”
“The same fight is going on inside of you, and inside every other person, too,” explained the wise Cherokee elder.
The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather, “Which wolf will win?”
The grandfather simply replied, “The one you feed.”
Let’s enjoy mindful coffee moments to feed the ‘good wolves’ inside of us ?.